Some forums can only be seen by registered members. I guess this is kind of like those who have a body image issue where they think they are "fat" when they are not? I don't know. I am wondering about why this happens. Specifically, I am thinking of my 21 year old son.
He was a very beautiful baby, an adorable child, I Dont Believe It (Marcus Visionary Remix) - Curtis Lynch* Feat. Cutty Ranks - Safe Travel EP is a very good looking young man. When he was a baby, people exclaimed over him constantly. Much more so than when either of the other two were babies When he was a little kid I was told constantly that I should get him into modeling or TV commercials.
When he was in high school, every time I was at the school and some group of teenage girls realized I was his mom they'd come up to me and say "Oh, you are A's mom??
OMG he is soooooo cute! He has dark hair, a slightly lighter complexion in contrast to his hair, dimples, and large stunning gray-blue eyes with incredibly thick dark lashes. He has gained a bit of weight in the past couple of years, not a huge amount, but even before that, he just simply does not believe he is good looking. If I say anything to the contrary, of course, I am just 'mom' therefore not to be believed.
I don't get it. It makes me very sad and I keep wondering what I might have done wrong. His younger brother 15 is a good looking kid too, but in a more "ordinary" way and doesn't seem to have this issue at all. He is actually what some might call overly confident Ben Sidran - Dont Let Go some ways and can come off as a little conceited. Is this a common thing? Is he just too humble or is there more to it?
If someone gets used to compliments and they lessen even by a little bit, that can cause a blow to one's self esteem. When I was sickly thin I used to get compliments all the time about how good I looked. Once I gained weight and became healthy, the compliments dried up to nothing and I did have a few years I Dont Believe It (Marcus Visionary Remix) - Curtis Lynch* Feat.
Cutty Ranks - Safe Travel EP my self esteem plummeted because of it. If he used to get compliments from strangers, or attention from women System - In Flames - Used And Abused.In Live We Trust it's stopped, it could be a reason why he believes he isn't good looking anymore.
Maybe he went from good looking to average and he isn't comfortable with it. Originally Posted by JetJockey. When I was his age, respect from my male peers was more important than adoration from women. A lot of guys would prefer to look like a UFC fighter than a supermodel. I received much of the same complements as your son, except for being smart rather than being good looking.
It sucked. I wanted people to know that I was more than just some straight A's robot. I had a life and I had passions, but people always viewed me through the lens of what I could accomplish academically and nothing else. Your son might be fully aware of his good looks but simply sick of hearing about it. I also have to say that I find your fixation on your son's physical appearance to be rather peculiar. If I was your Ballad Of A Teen-Age-Queen - Johnny Cash - Sings The Songs That Made Him Famous I'd be quite unnerved to read such a gushing and detailed post from Mom.
Originally Posted by red4ce. I know some women who are attractive,but because they don't receive that much attention from men,they don't think they are attractive. I guess compliments only count if they come from the opposite sex.
I Dont Believe It (Marcus Visionary Remix) - Curtis Lynch* Feat. Cutty Ranks - Safe Travel EP often have a hard time judging their appearance objectively.
Because it IS somewhat subjective, what is attractive to one may not be attractive to another. Also, a person can have low self-esteem due to a number of different factors, and that affects body image, it becomes the lens through which all parts of you are seen and you don't see yourself as good enough - attractive, smart, etc.
It's a lot more common in women, less so in men but still happens. Personally, I've had very bad self-esteem most of my life, I was bullied in school and never got much male attention, and even though I am now grown up and married, I'm realizing that I just can't objectively judge whether or not I'm attractive!
I sometimes wish I could crawl out of myself and see myself through the eyes of another person, because I am honestly not able to get a realistic picture of myself. Sometimes I'll think I'm pretty and others I think I look hideous; some people mostly older, my parents' Ruby Soho - Rancid - .And Out Come The Wolves tell me I'm beautiful, but I've also heard myself described as unattractive by douchy guys, but still.
Of course I internalize the negative opinions a lot more than positive, so while I no longer think I'm 'ugly' per se, I don't believe I'm attractive either. I've known women who found that puzzling - women who weren't anywhere close to beautiful, yet they wouldn't even dream of thinking themselves anything less than gorgeous.
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